Good Day to you all!
I recently received a friend request on Facebook from someone who attended the same high school as me. I probably spoke 9 words to this person in the entire time we were at the same school, and haven’t heard from them since (about 6 years) and now out of the blue I get a friend request from them.
Now I’m used to this. I get these everyday from people who’s names I vaguely remember but that I never had time for whenever I knew – or that never had time for me. Either way – it seems like an odd practice to me to link ourselves simply because we passed each other in a hallway once just because we both use a similar program. I generally decline these – usually not to be rude, but simply because I choose to mainly use Facebook to share things with friends I currently have – or to get in touch people I actually was friends with at one point who I have lost touch with… and it’s great for that.
So that said, this post is not going to be about blasting this person for trying to add me because I know it’s very common and many people do it – and I’ve been guilty of accepting them before from people I now wonder why I bothered to.
The point here is the private message that came with the friend request… The name of the person and the school has been removed to protect the identities of the innocent. 🙂
“You won’t recognize my pic it’s about two years old but i hope you will add me as a friend although yes you did make fun of me in highschool at (school) because i was so fat but i’m over it now i hope you will accept my apology”
Now, I posted this even though it makes me look like a total ass. I’ll say this. I don’t specifically remember making fun of this person for being overweight in high school. That said, I was an ass in high school (and now) and made fun of my friends for lots of shit, and them me, but she and I rarely spoke to each other. However, some of my friends made fun of her and it would be virtually impossible for me to say that I never once jumped on an opportunity to join in. That said…
If I did make fun of her for being fat 6 to 10 years ago, why does she want to be my friend now? I have about 5 or 6 friends from high school. People just drift apart. It happens. It’s natural. I really haven’t spent much time worrying about tracking back in time to find everyone I ever hung out with… and certainly haven’t spent any time going back looking for people who i remember beking total assholes to me.
Secondly… why is she apologizing to me? If I taunted her should she not be wanting me to apologize? Do I now have to forgive her? The whole thing is very strange to me.
You can call me cold – but I declined the request, as I often do to many different people. I’m not one of these people who takes pride in having more friends than anyone else on these sites and don’t kid yourself – those people are everywhere! “Look how popular I am! I have 1347 friends!” Ok, bud. I bet you stay pretty tight with all of them, too, don’t you?
Anyway, I just thought I’d share that with you as it’s these little puzzles that I tend to spend my quiet moments thinking about. I sometimes wonder if there’s something wrong with me for not understanding so much about humanity. 🙂
In closing, I just want to say to Carin that I hope she’s doing alright. Most people don’t know this from just reading, but Carin is quite likely the nicest person you could ever hope to mee and it kinda bums me out to know she’s bummed out because it’s pretty uncommon. I can’t say that I know Carin better than anyone or that we’re super close or anything like that – but I know that she’s helped me out with a million different things, as she has for a ton of other people and it’s almost always with a smile. You just wanna pick her up and put it in your chest pocket, which isn’t far from being possible! 😀
Anyway, Carin. Better days ahead and I hope you’re feeling better.